10 Mar Don’t Be A Christian Loner, You Need People
Loneliness is a problem among many people, including Christians, too. Many Christ-followers have turned their faith into a solo act. It’s a “me and Jesus” kind of thing. We listen to our favorite preachers online, yet going to church is optional. Church dropouts ask, “Who needs people anyway?”
Are you starved for meaningful relationships? Have you become a Christian loner? Here are a few steps you may need to take:
- Get involved in church again. If you’ve been AWOL from church for a while, wake up and realize that God created you to be connected to others. The church functions as a body, and people need you just as much as you need them. Hebrews 10:25 says: “Let us not forsake the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but let us exhort one another, especially as you see the Day approaching.” If you skip church, you are also skipping the chance to get encouraged!
- Join a small group. It’s impossible to build deep friendships at church just by attending a Sunday service—especially if it’s a big congregation where people can hide. Most churches have home fellowships, Bible studies or support groups where you can connect on a personal level. Afraid of meeting new people? Swallow your fears and go anyway, even if you feel awkward. It’s possible that the people you meet will become your spiritual family.
- Let go of your past hurts. I meet many Christians who have totally slammed the door of their hearts because they got burned in a past relationship. They don’t realize that resentment leads to more heartache—and even sickness. Cutting yourself off from people is unhealthy, regardless of how you justify it. Ephesians 4:31a says: “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outbursts, and blasphemies, with all malice, be taken away from you.” If you are full of negativity about people, your toxic attitudes will poison you.
- Let God’s love grow in you. God never called anyone to be a loner. He created us with the capacity to love—because we were made in His image. When we invite Christ into our lives, His love grows inside us—not only in a vertical way, toward Him, but in a horizontal way toward others. One of the best ways to measure someone’s spiritual maturity is to look at how much they love other people.
God calls us to radical love. 1 Peter 1:22 (NASB) says: “Since you have in obedience to the truth purified your souls for a sincere love of the brethren, fervently love one another from the heart.” The word “fervently” in the Greek can also mean “stretched.” The Holy Spirit wants to stretch your love so it becomes God-sized.
Make a quality decision that you will not live in isolation. Refuse the temptation to pull away from people. Open your heart and be willing to make a friend, even before anyone reaches out to you. Let’s drive out loneliness in the body of Christ.
Culled From Charisma Mag By J. Lee Grady