17 Jan Woman, What Value Do You Place On Your Life? – Betty Irabor
Let me ask you a question; what value/premium do you place on your life? When you look at yourself, who or what do you see? A woman who deserves love, respect because she is worthy of it and has earned the right to be respected or a woman who will settle for anything?
As a woman, I want to be respected by my man not because I demand to be but because I have darn well earned the right to be. I want so many things, some of which I may not be able to have right away but which I am patient enough to work for till I get them. And while I am waiting I will put my time and energy towards a productive and joyous life. I will live every day in abundance.
Marriage is ultimately the desire of most women but there’s something slightly off when it’s coming at a price and at all cost. Marriage is great but Never put yourself in a position where you are dehumanized for the sake of love, a ring and marriage.
A man who believes in your worth and sees the joy being joined to you will bring to him and you will want to make you his wife at the appropriate time without you forcing it.! Don’t try to make anyone love you because you honestly can’t win there.
Never outsource your joy to any man. You are worth more than you know. A good man should complement you, not complete you; you have to be complete by yourself first. There will always be that vacuum if your goal is to find someone to complete you. But I do have an idea of what you mean when you say “I want a man to complete me”.
Believe me, when you force a man to stay with you or “love” you when his heart is elsewhere you’re setting yourself up for emotional manipulation that will break you. You deserve that moment in time when your man goes on one knee to say “Marry Me” and you answer YES YES.. or even softly and truthfully say “ I am not ready” ( if you’re not) … Love and value your existence more than anything else in the world and don’t ever compromise on that value…
***Don’t place yourself in a position where at every turn in your marriage your husband keeps reminding you that “ after all you were the one who proposed to me!!” Live and love on your own terms… Everything good will come..# Lifeslessons
Betty Irabor is a Nigerian columnist, philanthropist, writer, publisher and founder of Genevieve magazine. She formerly has column at Black & Beauty magazine UK. She also has a foundation that promotes breast cancer awareness, early detection and treatment.